Saturday, May 12, 2001
ahhhhh, adulthood. I think there are a few things that make people more adult. I see adulthood and manhood as seperate things, although a lot of what see defines the difference between childhood and adulthood, and boyhood and manhood are the same. Ok, so they aren't seperate things, I just look at the terms differently, i suppose.
a few things I see seperates you from childhood. Having a full time job, and along with this gaining financial independance. There are a lot of things summed up in this one: moving out and paying for it yourself, having your own insurance, making your own car and school payments to name a few. You can't be an adult without these things. Being an adult is about gaining all independance from everyone, and being able to support yourself without help. And no, I don't see myself as an adult, far from it. Another thing that I see as very important and defining factor is being able to hold a lasting and meaningful relationship with the member of the opposite sex. Lumped into this, kind of, is losing your virginity. I think there is a difference between losing your virginity and having meaningful sex though. anyone can stick it in. Being able to perform the act doesn't make you an adult. To many people say that losing their virginity is the defining moment in becoming a man. I think that is bullshit. It is defintely an important step, but far from THE step. So yeah, back to the relationship thing. It is important have the maturity to hold a relationship with another person for an extend period of time. I am not sure if I have this maturity. I guess i won't know for a while now ;) I don't think I want a lasting relationship now. I don't think I want to be an adult yet.
There are obviously other things. I will probably think of some later and come and post them, but those two things stand out in my mind right now. I feel I am close to being able to handle both of these things. I also feel I am not an adult, and because I cannot handle these things right now, I am far from being one.
a few things I see seperates you from childhood. Having a full time job, and along with this gaining financial independance. There are a lot of things summed up in this one: moving out and paying for it yourself, having your own insurance, making your own car and school payments to name a few. You can't be an adult without these things. Being an adult is about gaining all independance from everyone, and being able to support yourself without help. And no, I don't see myself as an adult, far from it. Another thing that I see as very important and defining factor is being able to hold a lasting and meaningful relationship with the member of the opposite sex. Lumped into this, kind of, is losing your virginity. I think there is a difference between losing your virginity and having meaningful sex though. anyone can stick it in. Being able to perform the act doesn't make you an adult. To many people say that losing their virginity is the defining moment in becoming a man. I think that is bullshit. It is defintely an important step, but far from THE step. So yeah, back to the relationship thing. It is important have the maturity to hold a relationship with another person for an extend period of time. I am not sure if I have this maturity. I guess i won't know for a while now ;) I don't think I want a lasting relationship now. I don't think I want to be an adult yet.
There are obviously other things. I will probably think of some later and come and post them, but those two things stand out in my mind right now. I feel I am close to being able to handle both of these things. I also feel I am not an adult, and because I cannot handle these things right now, I am far from being one.
